Assess yourself – within the 4 domains in life

Lately I have been talking about dreams and goals a lot!

And I got it! The first step is to give permission to ourselves to dream! In our busy lives do what our heart is calling and give a voice to what we try to shut down inside of ourselves… is a lot! Beyond of the possibility of your dream coming true or not, forget it!! It is about first to dream out loud!

Dreaming is beautiful!…but it can be a bit overwhelming, when we decide to follow our dreams and then can’t decide where/when/how to start…I know looks like a joke, right? But manage the dreams out loud could be too much…so how to organize them and go from a dreamer stage to a doer status.

I found some help in the book from Stew Friedman, Total Leadership, where he categorizes four circles in life, to find the balance and be happy.

These four circles, or the four domains in life as defined in the book are:

  • Self
  • Home
  • Work
  • Community

I love this definition as I can understand where I am, and define my AS IS, and what activities I need to shuffle around to have more time in the things I  want to do and fulfill me more. Remember now as you shouted out your dream is time to assess where you are…where you are spending your time to do anything else from what is your current routine.

Mr Friedman has a whole course of Total Leadership, that you can take online, I did it in Coursera, but my biggest takeaway is the self awareness from those 4 domains in my life and using as a model of attention to balance where I am and where I want to go. And because the time doesn’t add more hours, how to shuffle things around and get the best out of it.

This also helps me identifying the things that I can’t skip right now, and live better with, avoiding the frustration that I may feel when my baby is sick (which is happening , the little things from a baby going to a daycare) and she can’t sleep well, so I can’t sleep well, so I can’t have the same morning routines as ideally I would love to have, or the same productivity as I would expect.

So what I use is in an excel file, fill out the activities in each domain, then correspond an average of hours per day spent in those activities, and then it gives a % per day.  Plot in a 3D Bubble chart to have a sense where the time is been spent, and remember, there is a must for remaining time to sleep.

Take a look in the table…

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And the graph will look like this…

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Is it true???! I don’t have a bubble of community! How is that possible???? It is a shock!

But now from here I can imagine where I want to go, as my next step this year, and what actions should I take to reach my goal for each domain, like this:

  • SELF – I want to grow with my blog and with my coaching life.
  • HOME – I want to plan a family holiday in the beach and have 2 date nights per month with my husband.
  • WORK – I want to be recognized as a great manager.
  • COMMUNITY – I want to build and look after a Women Community where I can support and give back with my coaching skills.

With this I think I can have more clarity to draw my roadmap and write it down the tasks and actions that I need to have in each domain.

The first time I was doing it, I forgot that the day has only 24 hours, and I was having 34 hours in total!! Crazy, right?

There is one thing is that the goals can’t be too many and disconnected. Otherwise there is no focus.

Give it a try to start to do it and reflect in your AS IS. So you can project your future and be realistic about your dreams!

Please never give up!

Thank you

AnnaJo

New habits – from fear to willpower!

Starting the journey of personal development, there is one common thing which is about the awareness of your habits and the power of change them and stick to them in order to reach your dreams!

What?!!! If I have a dream, I should be myself and I should stick to who I am! Right?

The answer is YES!! BUT… to be yourself, happy and fulfilled…what are the habits that will take me to where I want to be…

Great question, right?

Then within my coaching session, she asked:

What is your biggest fear?

I said… get sick and not be able to see and help my children grow! I have a baby who needs me! A boy who is 12 years old. They need me so much!

Then there was the question in return…what are you doing about your well being which will improve your health?

And here it was when I freaked out… because if I think in my list of well being habits, I need to admit I am not doing good… I am not having the proper breakfast, lunch is a sandwich in my desk in front of a laptop, I am not drinking much water, or at least the quantity I have been drinking, sometimes I skip dinner time, or eat something that I even don’t remember when my husband is not at home… even my basic Portuguese habits that could be present by the culture in my country are fading…there is no fish available, there is no lunch time set at work, the vegetables are so expensive, that even the cheapest and quickest meal I could have, like a vegetable soup is not available in the canteen or restaurants. Also I am not working out consistently…Also I am always stressed out as I don’t have time for nothing…Also sometimes I multitask in the car while I am driving!!

Ah!! A positive…I do my physical every year, and until last year my results were ok… so no alarms… I consider myself healthy, but am I taking care of me enough?

Well…here starts the challenge…I feel maybe not!

So I have a list that I created in order to be healthier and beat my biggest fear… As a normal human I don’t react in fear at least conscientiously for long time otherwise it would become a frustration. But creating an habit that feels good, brings pleasure, fun, the brain will recognize it as a need, and feels bad if you don’t do it! Like brushing the teeth everyday! Of course!!

Then it is considered a new habit if you do it for 30 days in a row without cheating… otherwise you need to start all over again. Some books say 30 days others say 21 days… I believe that depends of the habit, and the impact of the change in the daily routine.

Here it goes the 3 things that I am trying to accomplish in the bucket of well being:

  • Morning routine – still working in progress, beyond shower, kids and leave the house with a cup of coffee, what else I need to create an habit to be less stressed… my mornings are sometimes a bit hectic!! I am in a do/test mode, but I am working on one thing which I believe that fits and help me for the day, have a green smoothie or similar.
  • Work out 4 times a week, I had set this goal one month ago, and until now it is not an habit as I am reaching only 3 times per week, so I consider work in progress.
  • Eat healthier. This one I am relying on my husband and be a partner in his journey of Plant Paradox, which we are doing 50% of it. We believe it is already a big improvement from where we were. I consider work in progress, and there is a lot of change from introducing new ingredients to the way of cooking.

I believe I am aware now that is not only about setting the goal but it is also about how to accomplish the goal in a way that feels good. And then start the 30 day in a row without cheating :). I feel when you say from now I am doing something new everyday, you need first to test it and adapt it for yourself to be sustainable after the 30 days.

Like working out, I started to have this goal for a while, so I applied to a local gym, which I went during 3 months and then I am paying without going… you can understand that being a working mom, there are a lot of commitments with the family. So I decided to do at home, my husband set up the basement nicely with a TV, which I can pick up some work out routines from Youtube. Then it came the question, which routines should I pick up, that aren’t boring and keep me engaged. Finally I found a channel,  Popsugar Fitness, which is about 30 min workout, fun, light and has a variety of group exercises type. This works me. Then it was about the timing, when am I going to work out? I cant do in the morning (yet) so I need to do it after work 2 days a week plus the weekend. With this set up I believe I can build the habit…plus I need to put on my sneakers, as first I was going barefoot, as it was at home…but no!!…the sneakers must be on! Also sometimes there is a baby buddy…but it is ok! 🙂

Working out no matter what

Reminding the trigger in me… the need to work on these habits, and not in a way, I am gonna do it from now on, but in a conscientious way with my pace… I need to be more organized, less stressed, eat better and exercise…all of this in theory will make me live better and able to raise my kids and be a healthy grandmother in the future! Wow!!…it is a pretty hard perspective, right?

Interesting, that along the coaching sessions I had level up these habit’s triggers from the basic feeling of fear to the level up of willpower and ambition to rise for dreams, as I can only be an influencer, writer and speaker if I work on it and have time within my time to make it happen! So I need to be more organized, less stressed, eat better and exercise to manage my energy, feel better and do it all. 🙂

Thank you

AnnaJo

 

 

 

Be who you want to be – Lolly Daskal (Interview)

I follow Lolly Daskal in the social media and her work for a while. I see Lolly as the encyclopedia of Leadership. She has a lot of experience in the field, working with the big organizations, and influential CEO’s. I share her website in my top 5 sources of information.

I had the pleasure to meet Lolly Daskal in an event, WOBI in NYC end of last year. We were sitting next to each other all the event! Me and Lolly really connected, and I dared to ask her if I could interview her! I prepared the questions…I put the phone on the AVR PRO on, and record the interview!! It was a beautiful and inspiring conversation!

It took a little bit of time to make the transcript, I mean too long… as I was feeling I was not in the level to have it! But you know…, Lolly told me…”Give yourself permission to move forward with your dreams! So this interview is for you!”.

Thank you Lolly!

For the purpose of length and purpose of message I am going to split the interview in 3 posts. Today is about: “Be who you want to be”.

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Question 1: Who is Lolly Daskal?

I am an individual who is a student of life and a work in progress.

I never think I know everything, I am a kind of person that always says I don’t know enough, that’s why I read a book a day, that’s why I tried when I know someone new, I try to be really present, as I truly believe I can learn from every single person that I meet.

Question 2: How did you come with the essence of Lead From Within and building this as your legacy?

I had a very traumatic childhood. But  without talking about the childhood there were a lot of struggles that I had, and I always looked for help outside. Who is going to save me? The kind of victim’s mentality. Who would make my life better?

And I will never forget, when I was around 18 years old, and I kept finding myself very disappointed that nobody was coming to save me from the dilemma I was in. Somebody gave me the book called “Man’s Search for Meaning”, from Viktor Frankl. I read the book and changed my life. I read now the book every year on my birthday. It’s is the fundamentals of who I am today.

And it is the WHO I became.

You could be the worst situation, I was living the Holocaust, talk about people that who were hungry, who were dying, but if you find meaning in something you can move beyond the difficult situation, and that was the moment after reading that book, I stopped looking for who is going to help me and I knew if anything was gonna get better it would had come from within.

And I never forget I was walking somewhere, and I was telling myself, I have to Lead From Within! It has to become from you! It had become a mantra of mine.

Now, in order to find yourself to lead from within,  you need to know yourself.

That’s why in that early stage I became the reader, the inquisitor, the questioner, the curious one.

In my kind of upbringing asking questions was frowned upon, because the way I grew up in a society, in a community where you told do it, you will do it. You don’t ask why!

And so, I am the person, who said WHY? I want to understand if resonates with me, and I did not have mentors or anybody in my life that I could look up and  could become the person I wanted to be, so it had to become from books. So Viktor Frankl became my first mentor, Joseph Campbell became my second one, and Carl Gustav Jung become my third mentor.

These three individuals have made who I am today. They have taught me that is not the How, the What, the When, the Where, it’s the WHO you are, that is where everything begins.

Please don’t make the excuses that you don’t have the right environment, I fought against that, just because I grew up in a certain environment doesn’t mean I have to be a product of that environment, I can change by doing the things can feed me and nourishing me. So reading books has made me who I am today.

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Inspiring!

This message really resonates with me, and I really want to pass the message!

Follow Your Dreams and become who you really want to be no matter what!

Thank you

AnnaJo

My American Dream

In May of 2016, me and my family moved from UK to USA, through my work. I had applied to a role in the headquarters in New Jersey and… I got the job. It wasn’t a promotion, it was just a dream coming true, my American Dream!

We were doing good and very settled in UK, I was performing in my job, had a great team, friends, and my husband was happy also in his job.

So…why do I want to move to America?

I tried to answer so many times to this question that I still can’t have a good answer. But the dream was there and used to share it to my family, friends, and managers, to test myself how far I was from this dream…

I didn’t have a formal plan, but within my company, I had the hope it could happen, and if I socialized eventually it would really happen. My family had to be prepared, can’t be a surprise. But I should have done a good job here, as once at school, in a parents conference, the teacher asked me when I was moving to America, as Henrique, my son, was talking about that in class. I got so surprised, as this was way before I had an offer and there was no real plan at that time. But you know, I answered that we didn’t have a date yet, but it was in plan within my company.

When I had the offer to move, as a good surprise for me, the comments I got were like: “this was what you were dreaming for a such a long time! You did it”.

There was this feeling of doubt in me…did I achieve a dream?

I felt…I need more than this…I had a need…, bigger than the dream itself…I didn’t understand what was it in the beginning, but then I got it! It was the acknowledgement of the journey and the next big dream!

The acknowledgement of the journey was beautiful! So much that I decided to organize my own farewell at work… I prepared my last day, a TED TALK, with a tittle Follow Your Dreams.

And…I was saying this TED TALK was a preparation and practice for my next big dream, which was to perform a real TED TALK.

I remember, it was a big challenge, trying to have a speech for 18 min, trying to have a good script, trying to beat the fear to talk about me at work, trying to not run away before I would do it! I remember I was so nervous!! But loved each moment! Love the preparation and support that I had from the people and leaders over there! Very blessed!

I think with my move I forgot about my next big dream, to do a real TED TALK, but I want to have that dream alive again…and socialize it…and work on it. It is one of my goals now! I am daring to say it! 😊

I wanted also to acknowledge that the journey of every dream is so important for our growth…and dare to dream and talk about that is one of the steps! Be ashamed…it’s ok, it’s normal! But please read the book Dare to Lead from Brene Brown, and I am sure will help to put that feeling in perspective.

After living in America for 3 years, and just now started to be in the journey of a blogger and an influencer made me think….Why did I have the dream to come to America?

After recently reflecting on this, I think it was my belief that moving to America I would Give Myself Permission to Dream.

As stated in the farewell card from my team in UK:  ‘Off to sample the American Dream!”

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The big message is: DARE TO DREAM, please!

Thanks

AnnaJo

Dreams and goals live together

This week was very focus on goals…first at work we had a deadline to have the goals in the system, so even if we don’t give it as a priority, we had to have it completed. It turned out a great thing as we needed to give time to do it, no matter what.

But then is about how much we are going to take it at the heart, and in my experience, it is very hard to focus on the goals, looks like it is secondary in the daily activities. I really try to have it in mind, but then it is about to follow up, to monitor, to measure, take action…and turns out a lot of work, which then it is not necessary a priority. I am talking about work and about personal life.

For the last couple of years, in the New Year we had been talking about what are the new year resolutions, and this year we (I mean me and my family) actually wrote them down in a template, and we are doing something about that. I feel it is being quite challenging but, if we have the awareness it is easier to recognize the accomplishment, and easier to celebrate!

Man!!! We have all the benefits to build our goals, and be mindful about them!

I learned a lot at work and the model and templates we use is very useful. Also I have been reading some books, and I like to have it in sections of life, like: Self, Home, Work, Community. (from Total Leadership- Stew Friedman).

Then when we identify what to develop we need to be aware what the competencies we need to develop, so we can have them and practice in other subjects of our life.

All our goals need to be SMART: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Timely.

The goals in our life can be built with a set of milestones of a roadmap, and of course they are not static, as the things we don’t know and can’t predict can change our dreams.

When I was 7 years old, I wanted to be a Flight attendant, when I was 14 a journalist, when I was 16, I wanted to be a doctor, then at the age of 21, Chemical Engineer, and now in my late thirties I want to be a coach!

WOW!!! A lot of change! But the life is like that, we learn, we grow and reset the goals, but the learnings, the competencies that we are uploading in ourselves is the most valuable thing in our life!

Funny also is the capacity to dream!

Lately I am saying to my family that they don’t need to worry about about money! I am going to be rich in 5 years! Having the full money for college of my son, fund the retirement of my parents… It is a good goal! What I am going to do about that?

I did the Euro millions, the lottery, while I was in Portugal! Not even a single match number!!! I can’t control that, apart keep playing and spend that lucky money which doesn’t mean nothing to me.

So be happy and get rich! HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!! I feel like laugh when I say that! It doesn’t look like true! But I can work in the milestones…perhaps I can start to think what makes me happy…finding my WHY (Simon Sinek), and build my roadmap from there, the Visonboard, with my goals identified.

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July 2011- Solomon R. Guggenheim Museum, NYC

Wait for more to come…it starts to be a journey!

After this post…don’t think in goals quite yet, but think in what is your DREAM!

Then we will build the plan after that.

Thank you

AnnaJo

Soccer mom feelings

I am a soccer mom!

The status of a soccer mom is the one who has a child playing soccer and attend almost of all the games and some practices, and during game actively cheer to their team and their kids.

I have realized that the cheering part sometimes is a bit overcheering, as it happened already being told by the referee or the team coach to be quite.

Well, I wasn’t really a soccer fan and didn’t understand what a good player looked like, but now I know everything about good foots kills, being tactical, physical, speed! You name it!

Also there are these long conversations about soccer and our children in soccer and of course the coach. This is all new for me, as in Europe it wasn’t like this at all. But here the competition is much visible and present, where the feeling of the opportunity to be the next Cristiano Ronaldo only depends if you are a hard worker and play with passion and dedication.

With these values I need to confess, I passed very quicly from the mom who was there to have her son having fun to a mom who wants their kids to be the best, the one who knows the goals, and give 100% everytime…

I love this drive… I am not sure if they are the right ones for a child 10-12 years old, though…

He is now in the Elite league, which means is already an academy level, and the commitment expected from the players and from the parents are quite high. This means a lot of weekends we are out of the town and sometimes out of state for tournmaents. This commitment starts from the point where you decide that your son will do the tryouts. As it is quite difficult to make the team, so when you make it, the kids and the parents get another status and it starts to be new priority of the family.

I am being learning this new environment, and after 2 years that my son is in this Elite team, I am questioning if it is worth it. What are the learnings that my son is having to live this experience?  I am not anymore in the level of, “I am here and I just want my son to have fun”. I know, I am not!! And I am not sure if it is good or not, but I have seen my son growing so much that I believe in it. And I believe that he can transfer these learnings for other things in his future. But be happy is also important…means he needs to have fun also, and lately he is being struggling.

I am always trying to play the devil of advocate and give him the perspective of the failure as an opportunity to learn and make the next game/practice even better. And encourage him to practice even more, at home in the park as hard work will pay off, I normally say to him.

But this week I had the feedback from his performance and one comments from the coach is that he uses the “Prove me that I am wrong” strategy to fire up my son. In the moment I actually got happy, and said “Now I understand why he spends so much time in the bench”…I felt in that moment there were a belief that my son has the right potential so he needs to be the best when he is in the field, and like Tom Brady once said, be prepared to give the 5 min game the best of the 60 min.

Then he had a game during the weekend. Again the awareness of this and his tears at the end as they lost all the games of the tournament, and his fear and disappointment of failure, not because they lost the game, but because the coach told them they were crap, made me think!!!

Should I stay in the bleaches watching this as a passive soccer mom? I know in the organizations negative feedback, manage with fear and tension is not applicable for high perfomance. In sports after reading some sources, it is used sometimes for some teams and specific moments, but as a constant is not the right leadership.

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I know for sure I want to have my son to live a good experience in his life, it doesn’t need to be all stars and sunshine, but learn from there…if it is becoming more time of anxiety, stress and disappointment rather than joy and focus in the results, what should I do?

This is an elite team, I am a lucky soccer mom which actually have the best team in my town, so it is so convenient!…but man!!!, the parents need to stand up for their children, and the coach and the club need to receive the feedback what is going on. And me as a soccer mom, can’t be afraid to I speak up.

So yeah! The fun activity of being a soccer mom, it is becoming a very emotional situation… but there is one thing: my son needs me.

Thank you

AnnaJo

Stop saying “It is a great question!!”

Have you ever been in an open Q&A in a certain event full of people, where the host says, now please make sure you make your questions handing over the microphone…

What happen in that time, normally?!…Silence, right?

I am being reflecting on this, and I got the conclusion that what I feel is shame if it is a bad question and the fear of judgement!

I am trying to beat this feeling, to free up myself as I normally want to ask something, but then I get so nrevous and I think :”Damn, this is not so important…why am I putting myself in this situation”, then I give up!

When I comment to people about this, normally I got the comment back! “Girl just ask! What are you waiting for?”…

Hmmm, it doesn’t help! And now that I am attending to events, to some authors and speakers that I really like, I am trying to reflect on this topic as I want to interact more and take advantage my time attending these events.

My reflection:

  • Microphone, I freeze, and I am an extrovert! But the microphone effect is well known. So what I do is to ignore the microphone and use it with confidence! (kind of…) “Don’t drop the mic!…the mic is yours now!” Feels good if you think like that!
  • Standing…uff, need to stand?! Why? Ok…again, just make sure you have your button shirt tied and again “the world is yours!” Just saying that I am stating this sentences inpsired in a book from Amy Cuddy, Presence! It really helps to get confidence in these situations.
  • Status. If the person I am making the question, is higher than me, like the CEO of my company in townhalls, or the speaker very popular that I follow are the ones presenting and making the Q&A, I also freeze. Here the status is the reason, I am feeling blocked, I am feeling I am not in their level! The goal of the question is not anymore the content of the question but the desire to impress and be noticed! So after being thinking…I need to focus in the question, and really what I can get out of the answer. This helps…focus in the it rather than the person.
  • Be prepared…going to an event needs to make sense to me, I can’t only expect I am attending to receive, and take whatever I am listening! NO…be prepared really help to be in the context beforehand and the questions naturally will come, as the curiosity will grow.

What could help in all these situations, and what I am thinking when I am going to be a speaker is: there are no bad or good questions! I know the hosts have good intentions to be inclusive, and after coming the first one, the first comment they have is “That is a really good question!”…Stop saying that! If it is to be inclusive use other way, and if it is to gain time to think also get another comment instead!

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Lesson learned: Challenge yourself in the environment and try to be the first one making the question… don’t overthink, just do it…you will feel much better!

Thanks

AnnaJo

Fearless Girl – Part II

During holiday break we went to the City and walking around downtown we were looking for the Bull and the Fearless Girl in front of the bull! We got surprised as we learned there the Fearless Girl had moved to the NY Stock Exchange.

We took some pictures, we were happy anyway with the concept that statue brings and letting my son know the importance of it. After that visit we arrived home and while I was researching and doing a post I learned the follow:

A plaque with two footsteps marks the girl’s former spot in the heart of New York City’s Financial District. “Fearless Girl is on the move to The New York Stock Exchange,” the plaque reads. “Until she’s there, stand for her.”

Wow!! We havent seen it! So we decided we needed to come back to look after the plaque in front of the bull and take a proper picture. Done! Lets do it me and my family decided!

Let’s do a Fearless Girl- Part II visit!

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Today we did it!

But where is the plaque?

We didnt see the plaque there in front of the bull!!

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Uff…I did a bit more research but couldn’t find anything…was the plaque only there while the statue was moving? There was a lot of people taking pictures, to the bull and the balls of the bull!! Imagine, there was a line! We got disappointed…

Still experiencing this moment with my children is the most important message, as the way I truly stand for the Fearless Girl is teaching my son the proper values of gender equity so he can become a man helping other women!

Loved the picture he asked to take with my daughter! She already has one ally!

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Thanks

AnnaJo

 

 

Reinventing yourself

Last week I went to Portugal with my children and I spent time with family and also friends. It is a good time to get inspired!

When I visit home I always have the feeling there is something different, sometimes is good or sometimes doesn’t match my expectations, but the mindset is “wow it is different!” And the realization is when the new music hit in Portugal I never heard before, and everybody’s singing!

In the area of creativity and leadership there is the critical concept of the capacity of reinventing yourself, which means the capacity to adapt, starting of being self aware first and then drive the change.

This looks a pretty easy job, but it is not! It is needed a tremendous amount of courage, determination and hard work! People function naturally avoiding the critics, so the change needed to be provoked.

I got inspired this time when I was in Portugal with my sister… it was good to see on her the power to reinvent herself and the environment around her! Let me tell you a little bite of the story…

Nadia, my sister, bought a new apartment, a bigger one but quite old. Everybody were telling her that apartment was not worth the money and the effort she would make wouldn’t match the benefit.

She trusted in her gut, and herself with her husband are doing a fixer upper by themselves. That is so interesting the vision and the energy of learning construction work! My sister never put a frame in the wall!! But YouTube, HGTV were the coaches… funny hear the stories, about the details of every corner of the wall, which mistakes they did and redo it and learn from it! Moreover she decided to take all the dinnerware from our grandma when she moved to a senior care center this summer…hahaha!! Looks normal right? No!!,… All of it, was perceived old-fashioned, ugly and ready for trash!

She got it, and the last family reunion everybody was impressed!!

The best dinning room with the most trendy dinnerware!

Inspiring sis! Great lesson: put your hands on and start to do it!

ReinventYourselfThank you

AnnaJo

Visiting family with a GIVER mindset

Last week I came to Portugal with my children and I spent time with family and also some friends.

When I visit home I always have the feeling there is something different, my 5 senses get very sensitive, and everything become a place of a sort of story…even the less good ones.

This time was the time I spent longer without going home, I didn’t see my family about more than a year, as living in US and having a newborn was a blocker to go earlier.

I got a bit nervous, and normally I was coming home with the feeling that I am here to get back what I am losing while I am away, so I used to behave as a Taker. This time, and because I thought about it as one of my year’s resolution, I wanted to go home with the Giver mindset. I was not sure what does this mean, but my plan was to support my mom and my dad, giving a priority to my family as the meeting schedules, and be a real auntie…

I honestly didn’t have time for nothing, not even to keep up with the blog, but I was so glad that I did this decision, taking as my mantra “I am a GIVER”…I want to see my family happy, so I need to make it happen while I am there.

If I do this within my team at work, why shouldn’t I do this at home, especially if they need me, and sometimes it was only a positive talk or the dinner I cooked to my mom, or the day I spent with my children and nephews, and see their smiles in their faces, or babysitting my nephews, so my sister and brother in law can have a dinner out.

This people are the ones who really know me, sometimes it is a bit scary when there are stories I would prefer not remember. But accepting our history is one of the first steps of self growth to embrace the future. In this case also to enjoy the present, and make sure this present will be a good history in the future.

Be a Giver, it is good for your personal fulfillment, as Tony Robbins states it is one of the 6 Human Needs, “Contribution: a sense of service and focus on helping, giving to and supporting others”.

Visiting Family as a GiverThank you

AnnaJo