Myth – Planning is for boring people!

I grew up with the myth that planning is for boring people. If you want to be cool just go with the flow and create exciting stories every day!

I never thought about morning routines, apart from getting out of the bed and get ready to leave the house!

Money… the goal was not to worry about it! My goal was to have enough money so I won’t need to do any counts by the end of the month.

But now I started to learn about planning… the key to success is to plan your life! In a level that I even couldn’t imagine. When I listened the first time that Steve Jobs had his own style, as he likes wearing the same clothes every day, so he didn’t need to worry about it. I thought it was insane! Honestly, my first thought was how a person with so much money has such a boring taste! But now I got it! One less thing to worry about!

Talking about clothes, I used to say… I can’t plan what I am going to dress in the next day, as I don’t know which mood I am going to be…what I am going to feel like! Right? NOO!!! Successful people are intentional, means they control their mood, and don’t waste time choosing what to put on in the morning just because! Simple as that. (still working on that! 😊)

Money…yes, after listening to the podcast from Tim Ferriss with Ramit Sethi, I was impressed! How the money, budget, and all the wishes can be controlled! It is just amazing! How a person in his level can say that is saving for a fancy sweater…it is incredible!

I used to think that people obsessed with organization and planning didn’t have anything else interesting to do in life…I got married to an adventurer, who was telling me to don’t worry about it, just go with the flow! And I still like the romanticism of the actions by impulse, but over time, I am learning more and more that our lives to be successful and reach the goal we want it has to come with lots of planning which mean be intentional, not boring or non-creative! Actually, the Must DO activities, can be systemized in our day so you really don’t worry about it, and get more time for other things that can add value to you.

Morning routine: what is the routine that fits you and gives the power for the day?

Like what do you do in the morning? What are the ideal actions that make you feel good? There are plenty of resources out there in how the high-performance people adopt their mornings.

Plan it, adopt it, execute it and improve it.

Have your house organized: nobody can operate in a house which is a mess where you can’t find anything. Of course, each person has their own organization, but again find some help, find some time to dedicate to it, as it is important. Also, there is a lot out there about organizing homes, have you seen the show from Marie Conto? Or any other show in HGTV, the bottom line is to give the comfort of a house but also the layout and organization that fits you.

Plan it, adopt it, execute it and improve it.

Care of yourself, also this should be in your must-do activities, and again, you should pick the ones that fit you, and makes you feel a better version of yourself, and more confident.

I am talking about the actions for your aspect, how you present yourself. So what clothes, what to do with your hair, your makeup! Seriously adopt something that works for you, and you feel good about! Don’t convince yourself that it doesn’t matter, because it does. Don’t convince yourself it is ok to have your hair short, and no make-up because you don’t have time to treat yourself. NO!! Again what are the things you like, what makeup, and could be very easy things that you can adopt… but do it pride!

Plan it, adopt it, execute it and improve it.

The last one is wellbeing, food, and exercise! This is big! This one there are plenty of people talking about it! Within my journey, I am doing two things that I believed I created a habit: green smoothie in the morning and drink 1,5L of water. The other desired good habits of eating and exercising are still work in progress, but there is a goal.

Plan it, adopt it, execute it and improve it.

Well, a lot to take in!

Baby steps are the way to go!

Thank you

AnnaJo

 

 

Turning 3 years in America!

We landed in this country 3 years ago!

We were a family of 3 and we had 8 big suitcases when we landed in Newark airport, no more!

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We had a big hope of what America could bring for us, and what the American Dream could be for us! I was having this dream for a while, even not being very aware of what really that could mean,… America was my dream, and I believe in it!

We were transferred with my company which is a global organization, so we were living in the UK, and coming to New Jersey was a natural move, as it was moving to the headquarters and the opportunities to grow are bigger.

We accepted to move with a local contract, this means, in theory, there is no intention to come back,…my husband quit his job, and my son was ready to finish his 3rd grade in an American school.

I am sure for people who had moved countries it is always a lot to take in, apart from the job, but all the bureaucracy and all the details to have all the papers from a bank account, drivers license, housing, car, health insurance and others that you can name it in the list…

Well, little things like, at school, we need to give emergency contacts apart from the parents, but we didn’t have it! We didn’t know anyone formally that could ask the name for the school records of my son!…the lady from the office said to us, like your neighbor,… we didn’t have a neighbor…

I thought this situation was urgent enough to call my new boss and a colleague from my new team that I had met during the recruiting process, to ask their details. Very nicely they said it was absolutely no problem! Still a bit weird…and if you think you will never need it, we actually did need…. a story to tell in another day! 🙂

So much happening in a move, from the moment we decide to leave our things in the previous place, to all the unknowns we face it is definitely a massive growth in our lives!

It is not easy, and I am not sure how many times I question my American dream being really a dream… I am sure we all live these moments…

But last week it was our 3rd anniversary…and we were at the dinner table talking about it, and my son was telling me that he loves here, he doesn’t want to move anymore. My husband blinked to me and he said the same!

This makes me happy… I feel after 3 years it is still the start of chasing our dreams…

But we grew as a family, we had our beautiful daughter…

We think we are a more united family, as we need to count more in each other…

I started my blog and I am doing my life coach certification…

We feel we are learning every day…

It is a journey, a journey of life that we can take control to be happy and happier every day!

Thank you

AnnaJo

Reflections on Mother’s Day

Today it is the Mother’s Day.

I have never given the focus that I should, and apart from a card and a gift bough sometimes last minute, I never created big expectations on this day, as I think I categorized as more a commercial built day.

But you know what, I think today is all about the mama, is the engagement of the family giving back and appreciating very small things with mama!

So I made a list of what I wanted for me:

  •  Stay in bed for one hour more in the morning;
  • Have my coffee ready;
  • Take a long shower with close door;
  • No chores at home, including laundry;
  • Watch 3 episodes of my series in Netflix;
  •  Go to my favorite breakfast place with a happy family 🙂

Looks crazy, right? But you know this means that at home, there is a day that the family and my children have to respect my time and build the feeling of giving back and be grateful at home.

Actually, it was a pretty good day, as at the end of all these demands from mama,  there is a happy kid. A kid who is learning to give back and is learning the world is not only about him. (referring only my son 12 yo, as the baby doesn’t have a clue, apart from the excitement of opening the present)

Then I think… I don’t remember my mother having the concern to teach me gratitude, so why should I be doing it?

And my thoughts on this is, in general, to the new generation… They have everything, there is nothing they don’t have access. My son now says, I want to see what is in the menu of Doordash, I feel like sushi! Does he think about cost? NO!! He just feels like! Then I say that we can’t spend money on ordering ready to eat food, and he answers me, but it is only $15! He is right! But it is not right taking it so easy! So let’s cook together to make our own dinner!… All I got are grunts and push back… but then… it is fun, and he spends the dinner asking if the food is good, even it is scrambled eggs.

The point here is, how much we as moms are giving the opportunity to our children to give back,  and learn to be kind in small things, and appreciate the simple gestures?

So take advantage of the Mother’s Day and remember not only a gift or a card but the time they need to give with some effort to make mommy happy!

I believe these days even for the basic values we need to be intentional in how we should be teaching our children, creating situations they feel it and understand the purpose.

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Happy Mother’s Day!

Thank you

AnnaJo

 

 

 

 

Sacred Time

One of the big assets that we have is time! I hear so often the influencers I follow saying, “Time is our best commodity, so we need to treat it well”.

It’s quite overwhelming when I listen to this… as I believe I have control of my time, of course, it is mine! But then I listen to myself at work, at home, at all the forums I go… answering the “How are you?” question, especially from women saying: “Good Thanks! Busy! Crazy busy! But you know like always.”

AND…. this feels the right answer, as I normally have a reply back, engaging and resonating with me: “Oh yes! you tell me! same here, it is been crazy, kids work! Oh man!”

Then we look like we are the same team! Very busy women juggling with everything in our lives!

How do we stop this? It is not an easy task, and if I look more detailed to my time, there are things I do because I need to do..does this mean I take control of my time? I am not sure…

Working, house chores, drop off, pick up the kids, and all the activities they have, from their lunch packs to their soccer practices, and crazy but true, their social lives, like picking a friend to have a playdate, then a sleepover…uff! It is a lot!

So what is the ME time that I can have to pursue my dreams?

And here hurts thinking, but I don’t have time!

I don’t have time to do my manicure, it needs to be well planned, I don’t have time to wash my hair, I used to wash it every day, and now I do it 2 times a week! I don’t have time to work out, and don’t have time to work on my blog.

STOP!! It must to get a way.

So learning in my personal development journey, how can I manage my time and get back in control?

This was what I start doing.

I am planning the week with my husband on Sunday, where we have all the children activities and chores at home. We do it in a planner, a physical one.

We have a cleaner twice a month.

We have a babysitter that we trust who we can call.

My husband has 2 days a week after work where he gives classes of self-defense, following his passion. They are on Mondays and Thursdays.

I have another 2 days a week to work on my blog or activities related. Mines are Tuesdays and Wednesdays.

And these 2 days of the week are like my sacred time.

When I mean sacred time means not negotiable under normal circumstances!

Last week, on Tuesday, my husband had an event at night of self-defense for a very big group of Girls Scouts from our town. It was on my day, my Tuesday, but initially, I assumed that I would stay at home taking care of the baby and my son’s dinner…it was logic for me.

This time being committed to my ME time, I said, it is on my day…I have things to do… we need a backup.

So we called our babysitter.

Now you ask… Really? What did you do?

I went to a Starbucks and I was working in my certification as I had planned initially. This time it wasn’t the most productive, I have to admit, as my guilty feeling was still there. The baby cried, and my son didn’t have dinner ready after his practice. So I was on the phone checking in for a while…but when I understood everything was ok…I understood the ME time depend on me to keep it. It is all about my decision making.

Sacred time

I am glad that I went through this process so I can stand for me next time in a more relaxed way. Also, I feel like more now to leave work early on my days and during the weekend to play with my children, as it is also a sacred time to be with them fully of my heart.

Next time you have a personal project or a goal think how can you get your Me time as your sacred time?

Thanks

AnnaJo

Book Club – make it happen!

I am trying to arrange a Book Club in my town. I would love to create a community of women who can help each other, and unlock all the myths of our society and culture.

Then lately, I have been recommending a lot of books to different people and it is being fun! I am feeling it is a capability I want to build and I want to keep it up. Some influencers I love used to say that their first mentors were their books and their favorite authors. You know, I always felt impersonal saying that, but now I do also! Reading gives a lot of knowledge and builds in confidence!

Ah!! Also next week I am kicking off a Book Club in my company. It will be a Book Club for the group Women in Technology! As we are a big company, the invite was sent out to circa 300 women… but I am expecting to show up between 10 and 20 women.

Wow, suddenly looks like I am the queen of Book Clubs, and honestly, I didn’t participate much in Book Clubs before, as in my country there weren’t much of these type of events. I do participate online, but I miss the part of personal communication.

I am forgetting to say this is not natural to me… it doesn’t come up as if it was something that I do all the time, and here it goes, very informal…let’s do a book club. I had to think it was ok, I searched online for all the book clubs I could be participating, and be involved, and online I am in 2 book clubs.

But then regarding my goal of building a community of women that resonate with me, and find women that are mindset alike, I need to be intentional in my actions and be open to the triggers that it may pop up on the way.

I explain… I was being intentional when I looked up for a Book Club for women in the Meetup app, to build a community of women who have the passion to thrive and the courage to talk about their dreams…so in my mind, we should share some of the same influencers and books, and a Book Club would be ideal. Then if I want to grow my impact it will be easier to keep up with the schedule if it is near me, so in my town.

Looking up in Meetup, there was a trigger… a trigger why not me being the organizer!

Look what shows up online:

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I know this happens all the time! But this time I was available to pay attention and to take action!

So I am doing it… I am finalizing the location, as there are no much places in my area open after 7 pm, and I want to be at that time, to have the women available after work and children ready. So I thought in my local library, it is not allowed, then in the community center, they have already a Book Club in the afternoons, so they cant, there are no cafes open in my town, so I found out the Library of my County is near me and they have availability! Now finishing up details…

I am in this journey already for 2 months… and I have this feeling it will be only me showing up… need to be prepared! Looks like so much work for nothing!…

In my company, I am talking about it since December, and proposing it to different people, and tried to get some partners to don’t feel alone and it didn’t go ahead until I decided to propose it by myself and make a full presentation very formal and be specific.

What I mean by this, is that it is not easy to make it happen!

I feel like giving up! YES.

I feel like I am wasting my time! YES.

I feel like I am a bad mom as I am trading their time for this time with people I don’t know! YES!

NO!NO!NO!

Perhaps it will not work out! But I refuse to give up!

So I am thinking, even before I had kicked this off, I am already learning 2 things to move on with a new idea:

1- Be on alert to the triggers – keep the curiosity and open mind!

2- Mitigate the blockers – be patient and resilient! Rome was not built in one day!

This is not a big drama!

This is one of the small projects I am thinking and I wanted to put in place. This time I am taking action.

In my company, I feel more comfortable and it is an easy place to start.

But the outside world, where I don’t know the people, I am doing it too!

Thank you

AnnaJo

Book – Dare to Lead

It is the first book I read from Brene Brown. I knew the author and her work through social media, and her quotes and humbleness were always quite impressive. And of course, her Ted Talk – The power of vulnerability was one of my favorites!

If someone asks me today what is my favorite book, I will tell Dare to Lead from Brene Brown. So today I wanted to share a little bit about the book and me.

I can’t describe the audience who I would recommend this book! I would say to everyone who wants to be a better person to the world and engage fully with people.

I read the book twice already, the first one was when I tried to keep up the reading with the Read-Along Linkedin, making questions to the author…and… my questions were not mentioned in the videos, but it was a good experience!

Then I decided to have the book in my nightstand and dig in the parts it interested me the most, not even following the chapters…the book is too rich in the content, so I marked the book with the parts impacted the most.

  • Vulnerability is disclosure
  • Digging into shame
  • Empathy vs Sympathy

I can’t find space to talk all about the things I am learning through this book but within the authenticity of our inner and the courage to show up as we are, is making me smile and thinking, I want to be like that! If I need to build a brand of myself, I wanted to be a Daring Leader.

So I am sharing 2 examples that recently I am practicing the Daring Leadership. As the book also talks about all these skills can be acquired how much we need to practice.

“In tough conversations, hard meetings, and emotionally charged decision making, leaders need the grounded confidence to stay tethered to their values, respond rather than react emotionally, and operate from self-awareness, not self-protection. Having the rumbling skills to hold the tension and discomfort allows us to give care and attention to others stay open and curious, and meet the challenges.”  page 168

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It is ok to disclosure our personal experiences and openly sharing emotions in all cases. This can be possible if we create a safe environment where people can feel safe to rumble. This environment can be created intentionally to our team or at home.

And after reading this chapter (Rumble with Vulnerability) I decided it is ok. So I am doing this, with my team, with my family, making sure we can have the “hard conversations”.

At work, this puts me sometimes in a very uncomfortable situation, if  I want to be intentional, I need to give it a start…, being authentic and =vulnerable is not a natural state of humans, but it is worth it.

At work, I decided to help a colleague who is struggling with her manager, passing through a hard time, and in her mind, it comes to the job insecurity. So as her mentor, I started first to tell a story that I can resonate with her, then I told her “Lets rumble as much as we can for 15 min!” We ended up laughing and joking and putting the situation in perspective. The conflict with her manager still is there, but the feeling created is about there is a place in the organization where it is ok to rumble and think through a way to get it out, feeling better is a comfort.

I dare to have that role, as it is too close to me! So we can go out of the politics and mostly joke of all the situations, and the results are only one…feeling better. I am not there to save her or to fix the situation, but to bring her a different perspective.

I think about the vulnerability also in parenting! And it is being a great experience with my son who is 12 yo. Especially because he has this feeling of low confidence in himself and then he behaves completely in defense and is perceived as arrogant and sometimes closed in his shell. So I put myself first asking intentionally about his friends and his feelings…as you can imagine I can’t have nothing at first unless I tell him about my feelings when I was in his age, and my struggles and I can totally understand if he feels the same. After this…he starts to rumble so hard…and I allow him…I wanted him to feel safe at home, where he can express himself.

This week we went to Walmart, and I was asking him if he wants to buy some shorts and t-shirts, as they were on sale. He said no…but a NO…like don’t even think about it. So I stopped and asked him why…he started to cry, and I couldn’t think at first why, but then I got it! He doesn’t want Walmart clothes! Of course not`8, they are not cool and they are cheap!

So I told him I understand very well his feeling… I don’t like either, but there is trick…the basics are ok to have from Walmart, that nobody can see they are from the cheap supermarket, but then you have a few clothes branded that put you in the cool space!

Man… if you ask me if I agree with this! NO… but it is not the moment to tell him off.  I remember my frustration when I was in middle school and be in the group who was not cool because didn’t have the Lewis 501. I understand the feeling… I do!  There is a lot of pressure, so instead embrace the suck and help through his journey, and find alternatives. And it is better he feels safe at home, right?

Thank you

AnnaJo

 

 

Book – Girl Stop Apologizing

Today I wanted to share the book from Rachel Hollis, Girl Stop Apologizing. This is the book which I recommend to all women who are entrepreneurs, working in an organization, stay at home moms… single ladies!

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Why? – This is the type of conversation I would have with my close friends or the conversations that Sex and the City ladies would have, like for example Miranda or Charlotte were struggling to be a mom, and work, and marriage, and personal dreams.

This is the type of book, that made me feel I am not alone, and it is ok to dream, it is ok to fail, and it is ok to ask for help.

This book has the full acknowledgment of we actually feel with no shame, but better is the advice to structure a plan to drive our goals. For me, it is working well, at first I felt like, Awe…ok…so I am not a bad mom…!! I need to think about my plan!

There were 2 chapters that actually impacted me the most:

Excuse #3 – I don’t have time

This is the biggest trap for me. Me and my husband are the biggest supporters of each other, but we are really bad about organizing our time, and now with 2 children, and no support from close family, it is being a daily challenge.

Also, we are both dreamers, and we have so many projects, that is impossible to keep up without arguing who is picking up the baby to daycare. The other day it was almost closing time, like 6pm, and we were back and forward in the phone, it is not my day, it is yours!! Of course, we got late and the baby was the last child to be picked, and she was sat with the room teacher, in the office. Plus we got a warning that next time we will be charged by each minute late $1!!!

After this, we decided to follow a simple thing mentioned in the book. Give time to do weekly schedule. We are doing it, it takes like 1 hour or so on Sunday, and it is worth it! Last week, I thank my husband, for him dropping the baby at daycare so I could go to an earlier meeting in the office, scheduled last minute. As it was my turn I felt I had to thank him to support me, instead of having the type of words, you have to because I need to attend this meeting, as it is so important, or I lose my job!

I have to tell…it was kind of sexy, this smile back from him, telling me, It is ok! 🙂

Then the other thing it was to embrace the ME time. Means if I want to develop my personal projects, like my blog and my coaching certification, I need to set some time in the week, as my sacred hours. Since last month I am having: Tuesdays and Wednesdays after work, those are my sacred ours!

Excuse #8 – What will they think

This is another trap of mine.

I always think about what the others are thinking of me. And if I think deeply, I believe it is cultural, or the environment I was raised. I always had my mom saying to me, “Don’t laugh too loud, the others will think you aren’t a well-behaved girl”.

This one is not an easy one, as it is been years and years of living what the others are thinking, and afraid to be categorized in a box that I don’t want to, and not fitting in…it is a lot!

But Rachel Hollis did a flowchart about other people’s opinions, and I am an engineer… I love flowcharts!

And as you can see, all the boxes go to a conclusion: Don’t Worry!

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Thank You

AnnaJo

 

Book – How Women Rise

Last weekend one of my visits to Barnes&Noble, I found a book unexpectedly, and had one of these good surprises of finding a good book that I didn’t hear about before! I always get so happy when that happens…and also get a little bit of the FOMO (fear of missing out) feeling! 🙂

The book is “How Women Rise” by Sally Helgesen and Marshal Goldsmith. The book talks about the 12 behaviors that women have which hold them back in their career:

  • Habit 1 – Reluctance to claim your achievements
  • Habit 2 – Expect others to spontaneously notice and reward your contribution
  • Habit 3 – Overvaluing expertise
  • Habit 4 – Building rather than leveraging relationships
  • Habit 5 – Failing to enlist allies from day one
  • Habit 6 – Putting your job before your career
  • Habit 7 – The perfection trap
  • Habit 8 – The disease to please
  • Habit 9 – Minimizing
  • Habit 10 – Too much
  • Habit 11 – Ruminating
  • Habit 12 – Letting your radar distract you

Not surprising at first when I read the list of habits described in the book. Most of the behaviors are discussed in some of the forums of women where I participate. But when reading habit #6 that made me think and it was a bit surprising!

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Quote from the book: “Jobs are stepping-stones on the way to something else.  There is no shame in using where you are to position yourself for what you want next.”

This is it!

This is the reason that I am 14 years in the same company and never had an invite for a job that I really wanted to. I only start to talk to people and look after what is available at the moment when I am ready to move on. This means when I start the conversations with someone I already expect something from them and the anxiety increases. My learning curve in my current role is at the top, and I checked out already!

We cant checked out while we are in a role… naturally the performance decreases!

Outperforming in a role is the perfect timing to look after other roles, there is no stress for the opportunity to come, shows maturity and higher self-awareness, also will attract more people who want to help.

Watch out: the statement I am so happy where I am, I love what I do, is not enough!! Add also, I am learning so much and will be prepared for my future next step… sounds much better! YES!!! Who dares to do this? I don’t know women who do this…and honestly, I can predict listening even within the women saying, “Just started this role, already thinking in the next one!”

This is big learning! Doing a great job and look after the career means vision!

“The world needs ambitious women! WHY NOT YOU?”

Thank you

AnnaJo

Become aware of the unconscious bias!

This past weekend I caught up myself in a group of parents during a soccer match of my 12-year old son, while my baby daughter was playing with a ball, saying: “My baby girl…looks like she loves soccer so much! Oh no!… I wish she goes for gymnastics or dance!” When I said that, I realized immediately! “What am I saying!!” What am I thinking?”

Honestly, I didn’t even realize that I was thinking like that! I didn’t think, I just said!… which is even scarier for my side!

Now that I am becoming more aware,… I think…, I noticed that I said to my son, while he was writing a postcard to a friend for his birthday party, also this weekend, …”Are you writing a postcard, with a pink envelope? Your friend is a boy!!”

NOOOOOOO!!!!!

I don’t want to think like this at all! I refuse to have these stereotypes! I am not sure what I can do? I am a strong advocate of gender equity, and also a stronger believer that this comes from education, so I wanted my son becomes a man who supports the women. We have been having great discussions about it! He acknowledges when the difference is happening and we talk about it. Even if the subject comes as the biggest event of the Women Wrestling, WWE.

I am just sharing this, as I believe there are plenty of situations that we don’t even think,  which are present the gender bias, and it is not at the workplace it is happening, it is happening in our personal life with our families. We can’t accept any more, the expression: “Oh never mind, they are being boys!”, and think about that…. there isn’t the expression “Oh never mind, they are being girls!”. Actually, if this expression is said would be perceived as more a kind of judgemental.

I have a daughter and a son! And it has been an eye-opener how different I behave with the simples things for a boy and a girl…and I am sure this will impact them and the future leaders and the decisions they will make! The gender bias can only be mitigated through education. But for that, we need to be aware and take action… please do not ignore, face this as a reality that comes from many centuries.

It is ok the boys and girls play together with the little kitchen together! Like my daughter and nephew… but when they were playing it was inevitable, to listen to the comment why the boy has a kitchen?

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We are on a journey!

A journey of becoming aware of the unconscious bias.

A journey of acceptance, so please think! The gender gap is not only about women it is also about men. It is not only about to empower the girls for the future but also raise the respectful and kind boys of the future.

Thank you

AnnaJo

Community and international career

Last weekend, when I wrote the post about the 4 domains of Life and the assessment of the time through those domains: Self, Home, Work, Community, I got shocked that currently i don’t have a circle of community! The other ones, like big in work, then home, and smaller in Self is expected, but I didn’t realize about community…

Then I was thinking, my activities which aren’t work, aren’t home based and not for myself… like being a soccer mom, chaperone some of the events at school (not so many, but a couple per year), I considered family!

Friends…are community! Sadly…I don’t have a big group of friends, I have good colleagues at work, but friends, I didn’t reach that level yet.

Well, pretty sad, if I think like that! Right?

So I decided to make first a reflection of the WHY. I am not a bad person, I love to connect and actually I am an extrovert. So what is going on?

After doing a retrospective in time, we have moved to live in different countries 3 times in 8 years. We choose for an International career.

We found different cultures and completely different ways to interact with people. I believe these experiences made me and my family grow imensily. Our resilience, our capacity to come over problems quicker, the core family getting closer and the ability to look at things in a different perspective made us get out of our comfort zone, and be more flexible.

But everything has a cost… and have a community is important. I remember when I had my baby last year, I didn’t have anyone to stay with me just after giving birth, as my husband had to work because he was a contractor.

But at the same time, I had my neighbors coming to my house, even if I didn’t know them very well, they were knocking the door, asking if I need anything, with a tray of food.

Community and International career

This was beautiful!!

The same situation where I was feeling lonely, I had a great experience that made me connect closer to my new neighborhood with a new baby, and I have to admit, there wasn’t a day that someone didn’t come to my house… I feel grateful and blessed, I went to live in this neighborhood.

Also I am learning it is about us to give the step to connect more and take more the initiative…this takes time, but it is worth it. We are going always to be the foreign people, but this doesn’t mean a bad thing.

I believe it is a question of time that I will create the feeling and the habit of being part of a community, and increase the size of my community domain. I think it is about to adopt the giving mindset, and look after an environment where my heart connects and wants to give back.

Thank you

AnnaJo